Wedded and winging it

The fear about getting wed is simple: being stuck with someone who’s no good. It’s like standing on stage performing a play when one of the co-actors drops the ball. They forget their line. And they’re frozen rock solid.

The audience begins to stir. The director is pulling out her hair. The other actors all know the line but it would be out of turn for anyone but said actor to deliver it. The play would not make sense. In a moment of panic, the play is saved because someone improvises the scene.

The audience buys it. The backstage resumes their positions. The scene is saved for the time being. And for the sake of the play, the actors put the mistakes behind them to carry on. It’s the only professional thing to do.

But after the performance is complete is another story. Depending on the dynamics of the players is crucial. If they are close and trusting and more importantly if they like each other then perhaps it’s water under the bridge. If they learned and adopted fair tactics while growing up in all situations then perhaps, the offended may forgive the offender. On the other hand, if there are underlying problems then the play may suffer.

On stage everything has to be rehearsed but the true magic is in the moment. If a married couple can reach the other in the moment then life will be good. It’s when they can intuitively know when to act and deliver their thoughts (or lines) then a marriage works. Some marriages should last a very long time if there are no wasted words.